Take You Russian Fiance to an American Wedding Before You Get Married
by John Kunkle
When I saw my friends later on, they would say to us, �what a beautiful wedding.� By American standards, it was pretty good.
My wife would remain silent when they made such comments. I would remain silent. From my wife�s Russian viewpoint, our wedding was a miserable failure.
My recommendation is to take your fianc� to an American wedding before you get married. I don�t care if you know the people well at the wedding or not. Crash a wedding if you have to.
My wife knew none of the customs here. She didn�t know where to shop. She had no friends to help her. I planned the wedding. I lined up the church, the reception hall, the priest, the music, the cake -- everything.
I asked my friends to cook roasts and turkeys and asked other guests to bring food like a potluck. They all came through for me big time. They set up the reception hall.
I had to help my wife order her wedding dress � so much for not seeing the bride before the wedding. We covered ten stores and one hundred miles to get her wedding shoes.
When we finally found a pair that she liked and that fit her, I was a little heavy handed about insisting on buying them. She wanted to keep looking for more shoes.
I was the bridegroom, the wedding planner, mother of the bride, all rolled into one.
I did the best job I could. My wife grudgingly acknowledges today that I did a pretty good job. However, she still holds it against me because it was not a proper Russian wedding.
Expectations have everything to do with happiness. If you expect one thing and get another, no matter how nice it is, you aren�t happy. My wife was expecting a proper Russian wedding and got a hybrid American wedding instead.
Many couples have two weddings � one in the West and one in the East. My wife and I had planned to do something similar, but by the time she made it back to Belarus, she was four months pregnant and didn�t fit into her wedding dress anymore.
Her family had a nice celebration for us to welcome us to the family instead. We also had the baby baptized in Belarus with a celebration to follow.
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